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1.04.2011

That Girl...

We all know that girl...

We all probably know several that girls...

And if we stop and think about it, none of them are exactly alike. Yet, they're still all "that" girl.

I've decided to keep a running tally of the different types of "that girl" and share them all with you. First up: "If I Wanted Your Man, I'd Have Your Man" Girl.

She's not an easy one to spot. She'll probably initially pop up as somebody's friend. She's real cool, very beautiful and always has at least 4 male friends (who she ALWAYS insists are just friends) on the roster at any given time. In fact, you probably met her through one of those guy friends and it's even worse if the guy is currently your man.

Everything starts off real easy like. Granted, you were a little skeptical of her, but she's super respectful of your relationship -- hell you probably feel like you and her are hitting it off. She gets all the things about your beau that were kinda cute, but are just annoying now. She lets you vent when things are messing up in the relationship and as far as you can tell she doesn't run her mouth about it. You notice she spends more time with you than your man and you feel safe about all this. You trust her so much that when you notice her laughing a little too hard at your man's not funny jokes or touching him a little too long, you brush it off real quick. It doesn't hurt that she will often apologize to you if it makes you feel uncomfortable, but there's 2 tricks she pulls here: 1)She doesn't stop it and 2)She makes sure to insinuate that whether you're comfortable with it or not, you should be cool cause you know what's really good: they're just friends.

It's typically not for a long while that it dawns on you who this girl is. The girl who doesn't want your man, but wants to know she could have your man. As is par for the course, your boyfriend is clueless. If he's honest, he'll admit he tried to holla back before he met you, but she was unresponsive. If he's astute, he'll realize that those same jokes that she's laughing at so hard now, she didn't even break a smile on before. But, despite his best efforts and most redeeming qualities, he's probably neither of those things in this particular situation.

It gets to the point that you know something is wrong but you can't put your finger on it. You're so embarrassed about it -- either being too sensitive, or having missed the game that just got run on you so badly -- that you don't tell anyone.

The thing about these girls is they toe the line. Most likely, they'll never sleep with your man. Truth is, they really don't want him; it's all (and only) about the power of knowing that in a way, they hold the strings to the puppet that is your relationship. The best ones of them are practically taking your place before you realize what's going on. Perhaps the worst thing about them is that it's hard to say what to do. You feel like you should be mad at your booski, but you know that's wrong and you want to be mad at her but what did she really do, you wonder to yourself. She did too much, that's what. So don't be angry at yourself, recognize that girl for who she is and ignore her ass. In the end, that's all she's looking for, anyway: attention.

3 comments:

Jasmin said...

Oh God, you just perfectly described my own "that girl" from senior year of high school--my best friend's younger sister. I met my then-boyfriend senior year of high school and we started dating. They had been friends for a year (she was only a sophomore, but they knew each other from track), and he had asked her to go out earlier in the spring (around April--we got together in October). She said she "only liked him as a friend", so why did she get extra-friendly as soon as we started dating? Apparently, she told my best friend's boyfriend (who was a good friend of my boyfriend) that she liked him in September--by that time we were talking, and of course it just so happened that she changed her mind in the course of 5 months. To his credit, my boyfriend recognized the game and even called her out on her sh*t. To this day, my friend still doesn't know (but I'm not dating him anymore, so it doesn't matter). Funny, when we broke up, she didn't want to date him anymore...

Anonymous said...

This is the song Jolene by Dolly Parton! Listen and tell me I'm not right lol

Anonymous said...

Wow, my "friend" was/is "that girl"!!! The crazy thing about her is that she doesn't even like men!!!

Maggie

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